Disclaimer: not-so-happy post.
i used to think that love was sweet romance, and i used to believe in ‘ the one ‘ . i used to think that one day i’ll meet that man that God will place in my life, that one man that was meant for me. but all these fell away when i read an article about marriage and love. it said that there was never a man that was meant for you or something of that sort, and that love was never easy to begin with. they raised up an important point: marriage is the coming together of 2 sinners to become one, how can that ever be sweet romance?
after i’ve read the article, it seems as if everything i’ve ever believed in my life were fake. they fall away easily, like feathers blown away by wind. all the fantasies that i used to have were shattered; Cinderella was never real. happy marriages AND relationship don’t come naturally, they come through great endurance and discipline. because as a sinner, you hurt each other by sinning against each other. as a natural human being, we tend to hurt each other and even fail each other, leaving scars on the relationship. through all of these, there can never ever be a happy relationship that comes easily without effort. how silly of me to think that there can be relationships that wouldn’t require much effort, much patience, much forgiveness and much discipline! Love actually, isn’t what we think it is. it is, tragically beautiful.
while it’s all negative, perhaps things would change when we draw closer to God.
